A few weeks ago I had a challenge…. What will be the final topic to end this blog series of planning tips and tools, and it came to me!
Misconceptions about weddings and wedding professionals. My god when that came to me several just started running through my head. So why not talk about it. Weddings are expensive and time consuming, however we want our day to be perfect and perfection costs. So let talk….
When professionals hear wedding, they charge more.
I know I was guilty of this prior to opening my business. Maybe in some markets it is, but overall, weddings are extensive in time and sometimes more intricate process. An average wedding take 80+ hours of planning for planner, 18+ hours for photographers, and bakers well it depends on your cake. Bakers are most commonly accused of this misconception. I hear it all the time… Reality is, depending on the size and intricacy of the cake can take some time decorating it. Shoot even naked cakes are challenging because if you don’t make it at a certain time and properly sealing it, your cake will dry up before your guest get to enjoy. Just think about your designs and the hours that go into everything in your wedding. Work equals time, and time costs.
I’m only looking for a DAY OF coordinator.
I have read so many articles on this misconception, but for some reason I keep getting asked this question. Ok so you have all the planning done and you have friends and family that will help with the set. All you need is for me to come in and make sure everything runs smoothly. Ask yourself this…. How do you expect someone to manage a wedding without knowing the details? Details include what each professionals responsibilities are, when is cocktails hour, the speeches and timing before dinner so the food comes out still hot, etc…. You can’t expect a professional to do this and expect your wedding to be perfect. It’s impossible. Do you know that an average day of coordinator spends at least 25 hours on your wedding? Let’s see how it breaks down.
- Venue Walk through- 1-2 hours
- Email introduction- 1-2 hours
- Timeline creation- 3-5 hours
- Week of calls to all professionals for final timeline confirmation etc.- 2-3 hours
- Rehearsal- 1-2 hours
- Wedding Day 8-10 hours
So realistically… coming on your wedding day and making it the most amazing wedding would be nearly impossible without all the above steps. Our Wedding Management package even includes floorplan designs, wedding etiquette, and more.
I have friends and family that will do this….
Another major myth that your friends and family want to spend hours setting up, rushing to get dress and make to the ceremony on time, mingle during the reception and now break down everything.
Now I though the point of your wedding was to celebrate with your friends and family? So why do you think the want to all of this on your wedding day? They DON’T. However, I hear it allllllllllllllll the time that they have so and so helping them.
Do them a favor, don’t have them do it. They truly love you so they won’t say NO, but it’s not fair to them. Let them have fun just as much as you will be. Plus there not professionals, so when issues arise chances are, they won’t know how to handle it and your perfect day ends up… not so perfect.
Not hiring a professional photographer isn’t that big of deal
This is how our first consultation goes…. So who your photographer? Oh my Uncle Bob will be taking all the photos. Oh great, how many weddings have Uncle Bob done? Well, none. It’s his present to me.
I did this on my wedding day. I know, I know, I’m the professional and I didn’t hire someone. First I want to say, I got married in the boon docks and all the good photographers, which wasn’t many were already booked. SO why didn’t I hire someone here and pay for them to travel. To be honest I ask myself this all the time.
This is my biggest regret not hiring a professional. At the time I didn’t think it was big deal, but looking back it was. Hiring a professional photographer to take photos of your ONE special day is a must. You will look back, and you will regret it. Take it from me, there is someone in every budget so take the time to research, ask your planner, and hire one.
If Uncle Bob want to give you photography for your wedding, great have him pay for the professional.
DIY saves you money
No stress about making décor, setting up, break down, or spending more than budgeted.
Your wedding only comes once, so really think about your day and the reality of myths that you think it will save you money but in the end it will not.
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